Day 824. Ever feel awkward and clumsy? Use Dale Carnegie’s principles to give you confidence!

July 9, 2013

365+ Days of Living the Dale Carnegie Principles

Day 824.  Wednesday, June 26, 2013
Smiling Daffodil:  “Todd, will you be at the Dallas studio?”

Todd:  “No, it doesn’t look like I will be able to make it tonight.”

This was disappointing.  I rely on Todd to be at the Dallas studio—he’s the only student I know well.  I’m more at home at the Plano studio than Dallas.

My thought process:  This will be good for me.  I can stand on my own—technically I know other students.  Besides—I have one goal in mind:  practice my dance routine.

I arrived at the studio.

My thought process:  I’m uncomfortable.  This isn’t home.

I put my argyle socks and sneakers on, grabbed my iPod, and approached the dance floor.  I was terrified.

It didn’t make any sense.  I’ve practiced my routine just a few days ago at this very studio.  But there were more people at the studio today.  And I felt stiff and awkward.

I began the introduction to my routine.  I was indeed stiff and awkward.  I looked at myself in the mirror.  I tried to smile.  I felt stupid.

But I kept telling myself:  I can do it.  I’ve done it before. I can do it again.

I looked at the other students who were in private dance lessons.  Other students were practicing on their own.

No one cares what I do—no one is standing waiting to laugh at my mistakes.  The students are learning—they are not perfect.  The teachers—they aren’t going to mock me.

I focused on the music—my favorite tunes I play at the gym.  I looked at my eyes in the mirror.  I raised my head and I began my routine.

I did a better job at dancing.  My confidence grew.  I danced and continued to dance—for a half hour.  I even rotated so that I’d face different directions in the studio.  I smiled at the wall.  I smiled at myself in the mirror.  I smiled at the other students.

After a half hour I left feeling quite confident about my routine.

The Dale Carnegie principles used in this story are from How to Stop Worrying and Start Living:
Do the very best you can.

The lesson in this story:  Shake off the negativity and doubt in your head.  It is debilitating.  It is counterproductive.  Instead—permit yourself to try—permit yourself to make mistakes—and permit yourself to bask in even the smallest of victorious accomplishments.  It is through this process that we grow as individuals.  We are able to grow by learning new skills and confidence.

365+ Days of Living the Dale Carnegie Principles By The Smiling Daffodil

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