Day 933. Show respect for the other person’s point of view.

October 14, 2013

365+ Days of Living the Dale Carnegie Principles

Day 933.  Sunday, October 13, 2013
We began discussing a subject, my friend and I, and I found myself disagreeing with him. Our opinions are the complete opposite.  I listened and found myself getting irritated—and I was thinking of the argument I’d retort back with.  But instead I decided to listen.  I tried to see his viewpoint without arguing.  This wasn’t easy—again, I feel strongly about my opinions as does he.  But I at least gave him the courtesy to listen and try to understand.

At some point during the discussion my plan to listen almost didn’t work, so I decided just to say a quick prayer for guidance in how to behave appropriately.

When finished I gave my point of view, which he listened to with the same respect I gave him.

Neither one of us changed the other’s viewpoint but we can at least behave in a civil and courteous manner.

The Dale Carnegie principle used is from How to Win Friends and Influence People:
Principle 11.  Show respect for the other person’s opinion.  Never say, “You’re wrong.”
Principle 17.  Try honestly to see things from the other person’s point of view.

The lesson in this story:  try to see the bigger picture when you enter into a conversation with someone on a topic you disagree on.  It won’t gain anyone anything by telling the other person he/she is wrong—or stupid, or ignorant, etc.  Listen.  Try to see their point of view.  Understand also that by doing this—you leave the opportunity for continued discussion to happen.  Who knows.. maybe down the road perspectives and understanding may change and you’ll find common ground that you can agree on.  Personally, I am counting on this to be true.  ;-)

365+ Days of Living the Dale Carnegie Principles By The Smiling Daffodil

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