Day 937. Solutions for a happier life.

October 18, 2013

365+ Days of Living the Dale Carnegie Principles

Day 937.  Thursday, October 17, 2013
I parked the car and walked around to the passenger side.

As I glanced at all the bags I had to haul I couldn’t help but wonder if I was out of my mind.

Why am I doing this?

I gathered my two camera bags, my purse and my dance shoes.

Why did I bring my expensive camera with me?

But I reminded myself that I had suggested I take some headshots of a friend.  And the dance studio was the most logical setting.  But hauling all my equipment into class seemed a bit excessive.

Nevertheless, I did it.  Besides, it will be fun and the task needs to get done.

I walked in with all my stuff, my fancy hat on my head, my red high heels that are slightly challenging to walk in and pearls around my neck.  I make a great spectacle.

Dance class and the dance party were a blast.  It was during the dance party that I noticed my friend – the one I’d be photographing.

I wasn’t sure if she remembered I’d be taking photos.

But at the end of dance class she lingered.

Smiling Daffodil:  “Shall we?!”

Kim:  “Yes.  But I’m not really dressed up.  This is the best I could do today.”

I sat preparing my camera.

Smiling Daffodil:  “You look great!”

Kim:  “Where do you want me?”

Smiling Daffodil:  “I think on this purple sofa!”

She sat down a bit unsure of what to do.

But she got comfortable and started smiling.

By this time I’m giddy.  I’m on my knees on the dance floor—snapping photos and expressing my excitement.

Other friends stood nearby watching the scene.

My funny looking hat was nearby.

John:  “Oh!  Put on the hat Kim!”

Kim was hesitant but we all encouraged her.

Smiling Daffodil:  “Oh my gosh!  The hat looks better on you than me!”

Kim:  “Do you think?”

John:  “Admittedly, it doesn’t quite match with the outfit but yes, it looks great.”

Smiling Daffodil:  “Ok, let’s put my pearl necklace on her.  It will tie the outfit and hat together.”

Another friend removed my necklace and placed it on Kim.

Kim was smiling and having fun with all the attention.  I snapped photos during the process.

We finished and as we were walking out I saw another opportunity to take a photo of Kim, who was now holding a cupcake… the perfect prop!

I snapped a few shots and was giddy.

Smiling Daffodil:  “Look at this photo!”

Kim saw the photo and was thrilled.

Kim:  “Your camera takes great shots!  Wow!”

The Dale Carnegie principle featured in this story is from How to Win Friends and Influence People:
Make the other person feel important – and do it sincerely.

The lesson in this story:  Achieve happiness by forgetting yourself and focusing on others.

You are welcome to doubt whether or not this principle works.  I encourage you to doubt me!  I doubt myself and the principles all the time!  But I am firm about putting them to the test—and I encourage you to do the same.  The next time you are sad, depressed, lonely, bored, whatever negative emotion—put this Dale Carnegie principle to the test.  Take the time to do something kind for someone else.  Observe the effects of your actions towards the other person and observe how it makes you feel.

The more you practice this principle and the others—you’ll observe how it becomes somewhat easy to adjust your behavior to maximize your happiness.  Will you have bad days?  Yes.  I certainly still have bad days!  I work in a miserable, unhappy work environment.  But I have managed to figure out how to make it work to my advantage.  Imagine what you can do and take action today.

365+ Days of Living the Dale Carnegie Principles By The Smiling Daffodil

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One Response to Day 937. Solutions for a happier life.

  1. Velveeta
    October 18, 2013 at 10:07 am

    Thanks for throwing down that challenge, Smiling Daffodil! I’m really going to try that today!

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