Day 940. Instead of shutting down… do your best.

October 30, 2013

365+ Days of Living the Dale Carnegie Principles

Day 940.  Sunday, October 20, 2013
Smiling Daffodil:  “Roe, I will try to behave but it is going to require a lot of Carnegie principles.”

Roe:  “Don’t shut down.  I need you to be present – if nothing else for my sake—it’s not easy for me to attend this event either.”

Smiling Daffodil:  “I have better things to do.  I don’t understand why this event was poorly handled.”

I started going off on my fit of frustration and criticism toward a person.  And let me tell you, I was not mincing words.

Roe:  “Yes.  But smile.  It will be ok.”

Smiling Daffodil: “Grr!”

So off we went to celebrate an event for a friend.  We parked the car and on the way inside the building I started again…

Smiling Daffodil:  “I apologize to you now Roe if I don’t behave.  I will try not to shut down and sit quietly in the corner.  This isn’t my thing.  If you see me feeling awkward or unhappy if they start picking on me or criticizing me—please deflect.  Come to my aid.  This isn’t easy.”

We arrived at the party.  I tried—but oh, how I didn’t want to be there.  This was WAY out of my comfort zone among other things.  I’ve never participated in a skit before.  I’m not an actress.  It’s way out of my comfort zone.

While I didn’t shut down in a glaringly obvious manner—I was quiet.  I didn’t know what to do at this party. Acting isn’t part of my area of expertise—or interest.  I was genuinely lost and didn’t know what was expected of me—nor did I have much of an attention span.

Roe on the other hand—he stepped up to this challenge.  He spoke with an accent when he played his character.  He wore a lab coat.  He was a good sport in what was for me, a socially awkward and unpleasant experience.

The experience ended relatively early.

Smiling Daffodil:  “Roe, you set a good example.  I was really impressed with how you played your character.”

Roe:  “It’s not really my thing.  Just as you’re an introvert, I am too—but I played along.”

The Dale Carnegie principle Roe used is from How to Stop Worrying and Start Living:
Do the very best you can.

The lesson in this story:  When faced with social settings that you are unfamiliar with or feel awkward and unprepared—focus on doing your best.  Roe really impressed me by his example—we can all learn from him.

365+ Days of Living the Dale Carnegie Principles By The Smiling Daffodil

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