Day 948. Tips for avoiding World War III with your friends, family and associates…

December 12, 2013

365+ Days of Living the Dale Carnegie Principles

Day 948.  Monday, October 28, 2013
A situation was eating away at me since yesterday.  There was no way I was going to be persuaded to the other person’s point of view.  No.  Way.  Ever.

Granted, this person already made plans for me.  I didn’t know what to do yesterday but today I knew what I needed to do.  I was just afraid.

Every time I thought about the matter I got anxious and upset.  No, furious.  And I was worried the only way to settle the matter would result in an argument.  If necessary I was going to showcase every fault, every shortcoming as proof of why I was irrefutably right.

But as unexpected as it sounds, I stopped my thought process and remembered I’m a Dale Carnegie graduate.  I write a daily Carnegie blog.  This matter can be handled if I use Dale Carnegie principles.

I drafted an email in my mind.  Then I typed it.  Instead of the tone being angry and fault finding my email was positive, instructive and a little vulnerable.

Yes, I can do this!

I had a couple friends look it over to make sure I wasn’t being obnoxious but was being courteous, yet firm.

I sent the email and waited for World War III to begin.  I figured if I start early enough, WW III could be over by the end of the day.  Maybe.

Every time my phone beeped I checked my email for the reply.  Nothing.

But then late in the afternoon I received a reply.

I was afraid to read the email—this could be war, after all.

To my surprise, the email was upbeat and positive—just as I had been to the person.

The Dale Carnegie principle used is from How to Win Friends and Influence People:
Principle 1.  Don’t criticize, condemn or complain.

The lesson in this story:  Odds are there’s a Dale Carnegie principle for every occasion!  When you are at a crossroad and don’t know how to handle a difficult situation with another person, stop and consider the Carnegie principles.  Try to take a positive approach.  Using the principles is no guarantee people will react a certain way—but it certainly creates discipline on your part and it also forces you to see viewpoints other than your own.  You will grow as a person if you put these principles into practice.

365+ Days of Living the Dale Carnegie Principles By The Smiling Daffodil

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