Day 950. Pick your battles!

December 31, 2013

365+ Days of Living the Dale Carnegie Principles

Day 950.  Wednesday, October 30, 2013

My dance lesson began.

Uly:  “Do you have any questions?”

Smiling Daffodil:  “Actually, yes.  There was a Lindy Hop step I learned last Wednesday in group class.  It was called the Camel Walk.  I don’t remember anything about it—other than I LOVED IT.  Do you know the step?”

The trouble is—Lindy Hop has many variations.  The instructors know the steps—but not always immediately.

Uly thought about it.

“Hmmm…which group class was it last week?”

I told him.  He was surprised we learned the step in the basic class.

He couldn’t remember the step offhand.  So he went to another instructor.  The other instructor was stumped too.

Smiling Daffodil:  “It’s ok.  I don’t want to interrupt you—we can carry on with the lesson.”

George:  “No, now it’s going to drive me crazy.  We’ll figure it out.  Another instructor, Jane came over.  She did some research and figured out the step.

Jane:  “Who wants to dance with me as I demonstrate the step?”

I bubbled with delight, my fingers were dancing.  I quickly partnered with her and she guided me through.

Smiling Daffodil:  “That’s it!”

We practiced the step.  I was still bubbling with excitement.

Smiling Daffodil:  “The goal is to master that step.  I need a lot of work on it. But that’s the goal.”

Jane:  “Notice how she said she didn’t want to learn the step. No… she wants to master it!  I like that!”

To say I was giddy is an understatement.  I can’t get enough Lindy Hop… ever.

But today’s lesson was on Tango and Uly had to refocus my attention.

Uly gave me a couple more rounds of dancing Lindy Hop.

Uly:  “Now we need to focus on the Tango so you can advance to the next level in your class.  Once we do that then we can work on Lindy Hop.”

Smiling Daffodil:  “Ok.”

And so I was focused on improving my Tango.  Though the class wasn’t all Lindy Hop I was still focused and having fun.

The Dale Carnegie principle featured in this story is from How to Stop Worrying and Start Living:
Don’t fuss about trifles.

The lesson in this story:  The dance instructors understand what motivates me and rather than discourage my obsession with Lindy Hop in favor of all the other dances, they give me some lessons on Lindy Hop and then sneak in other dance lessons.  Rather than argue with a person and telling them what they need to do or what they must do—they don’t fuss about trifles.  They see the bigger picture.  If giving me a few minutes of Lindy Hop will make me happy and more open and receptive to learning other steps—then it’s a good thing.  Pick your battles!

365+ Days of Living the Dale Carnegie Principles By The Smiling Daffodil

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